Posted 7 hours ago
These are forms of male aggression that only women see. But even when men are afforded a front seat to harassment, they don’t always have the correct vantage point for recognizing the subtlety of its operation. Four years before the murders, I was sitting in a bar in Washington, D.C. with a male friend. Another young woman was alone at the bar when an older man scooted next to her. He was aggressive, wasted, and sitting too close, but she smiled curtly at his ramblings and laughed softly at his jokes as she patiently downed her drink. ‘Why is she humoring him?’ my friend asked me. ‘You would never do that.’ I was too embarrassed to say: ‘Because he looks scary’ and ‘I do it all the time.’

Women who have experienced this can recognize that placating these men is a rational choice, a form of self-defense to protect against setting off an aggressor. But to male bystanders, it often looks like a warm welcome, and that helps to shift blame in the public eye from the harasser and onto his target, who’s failed to respond with the type of masculine bravado that men more easily recognize.

Why it’s so hard for men to see misogyny (via ethiopienne)

BOOOM.  Read this if you are a dude, please.

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Yesssssss.

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Posted 1 day ago

papercutpeony:

amarilloo:

missveryvery:

radicalrebellion:

feministcaptainmorgan:

baronsledjoys:

firecannotkillafitblr:

This drives me mad. I used to work in a bookstore, and was talking to my coworker and he just yelled out “stop flirting with me!” at this ridiculous volume and it was humiliating because
1. I wasn’t
2. I got in trouble for acting unprofessional
3. He embarrassed me in front of a line of people
4. And he only stopped insisting that I was flirting when my boyfriend (who is now my husband) said, “dude, trust me, she’s not flirting with you” to him

That asshole respected my BOYFRIEND saying I wasn’t flirting more than he respected me saying it and I was the one who was talking! The whole scene got me in trouble at work. And the most ridiculous part is we were talking about a fucking book. In a bookstore.

One time, my ex boyfriend had a crush on some girl, and said that he thought he might have “a chance” with her.

When I asked him what made him think that, he said “Well, she talks to me.”

And this is why it is so difficult to be a girl and be friends with men who are attracted to women.

Can we also add that this is why a lot of women do the resting bitch face when out in public. Cause dudes swear a glance or a smile is flirting.

it’s basically impossible to be nice to straight dudes without them thinking you want to fuck them @_@

and I’m one of those people that blush at the drop of a hat… at literally anything… NOT HELPING, FACE, THANKS 

but I know girls do this to guys too. I’ve heard plenty of girls thinking guys want to bang them (and the guy turns out to be gay, true story) 

What the..uh It’s not just white people. This situation just happened to me like last week and the guy was black. It’s not a race thing (and I don’t give a shit what his race was either). Anyways he asked me where I got my shoes b/c he was searching for “sandals with flower designs on them for his girlfriend”. Oh, how nice of him. And i told him they’re like all over the place at DSW shoes(…..and every other shoe store in existence rn. It’s summer……), with a friendly smile…..then he immediately asked me, “…So do you live around the area?”

How the hell am I supposed to take that kind of response?

There’s no way anyone could explain that as “not creepy/not flirting”. He asked some random girl where they live while he was shopping for his girlfriend.

(Source: girlcodeonmtv)

Posted 2 days ago

hobbitballerina:

chelseawelseyknight:

witchesbitchesandbritches:

lifeundefeated:

Yea it’s clearly our “generation that’s making homosexuality a trend.” Seriously, pisses me off when people say that. look at this! It’s always been around, it’s not a trend, it’s real. It’s beautiful.

These are really beautiful images.

This makes me really happy

There’s a long history of lesbian-like activity in the West.  In the 19th century US, especially after the Civil War killed off so many young men, middle-class and other genteel girls were encouraged in Boston marriages — relationships with other women of similar educational and class backgrounds.  Since women were considered naturally chaste and disinterested in sex, these love affairs were seen as innocent and spiritual.  Women’s lives were wholly separate from men’s that young women infrequently had male friends who weren’t considered a marriage prospect.  They were encouraged to keep to all-female social circles, and the advent of women’s colleges further encouraged that.  Women were expected to mentor each other, love each other, dance with each other, with the older woman acting as the cavalier, the man in the relationship, protecting and guiding the younger, pursuing her and courting her in ways not unlike how young men would court their brides.  But the prevailing cultural wisdom was that these relationships would be limited to kisses and poetry — women were incapable of sexual desire, they tolerated sex in heterosexual marriages because men were sex-driven beasts who demanded it of them.  Without a man, it was presumed that these relationships would be chaste, innocent, and wholly emotional.  Lesbian-like behaviour is most tolerated when women are perceived as less sexual than men.  Homosexual behaviour becomes threatening when sex is involved — when, in the 1920s, women were seen as able to have sexual drives and the idea of sexually companionable marriages came onto the landscape, Boston marriages suddenly became unnatural and disgusting because they directed women’s sexual interests towards other women instead of to the proper channels: towards men.  The flapper was all about the sexually available (to men) young woman.  She contributed to the demise of widely accepted lesbian or lesbian-like relationships.  As soon as the flapper was capable of wanting sex herself instead of tolerating it from her male partner, lesbian/lesbian-like relationships were threatening, deviant, and ruined young women’s chances to become good wives and mothers.

So remember this as you look at the pre-1920s images.  Those women were allowed these passionate loves, even encouraged in them (sometimes after they managed to get a husband, Eleanor Roosevelt in particular), all because the patriarchy was convinced that women weren’t capable of sexual feelings towards one another.  As long as women were seen as desexed, as creatures of sentiment and emotion instead of passion and desire, lesbianism wasn’t a threat.  The minute women were regarded by patriarchal culture as having a natural sex drive, lesbian-like behaviour became deviant and damning.

We didn’t invent homosexuality in the past 20 or 30 or 50 years.  But we continue to labour under the belief and cultural expectation that women’s sexuality is something owed to and owned by men, forever de-legitimising women’s relationships unless men in some way benefit. 

(Source: babycocodill)

Posted 2 days ago

fogo-av:

buzzfeed:

A look into the experiences of bisexual women who happened to fall in love with men

Graphics by Chris Ritter

Reblogging this again because it’s so important.

This is relevant

Posted 5 days ago

kawaiimon:

femmeanddangerous:

backto5oh5:

so if ya’ll haven’t heard, a lot of detroit residents have had their water turned off due to “outstanding bills”, some of $50 dollars or less. It’s gathered a lot of attention (probably bc it’s fucking disgusting) and national corporations like PETA have decided to do something about it!!! by paying off the water bills of detroit residents -who just have to agree to go vegan for a month. i am very angry, obviously, by the fact that WATER has been thrown around like a prize or a privilege in detroit and i’m really sad about this. 

(if you want to do something to help, you can pay the water bills [or parts of them!] of residents who have been affected by the shut off at detroitwaterproject.org)

((also if you know anyone personally who has been affected by the shut off, have the call in 211 hotline to be connected the united way services))

Dear fucking god this is disgusting. Literally bartering peoples human rights in exchange for adherence to their beliefs is so vile. I’m shaking with anger. How dare they use this flagrant denial of people’s rights as a PUBLICITY STUNT THE FUCKING AUDACITY OF THESE PRIVILEGED SHITBAGS IS OVERWHELMING.

Bolding that section of the OP’s post because despite PETA being scum as usual, there are other programs others are doing like the detroit water project, which you can take part in.

Friendly reminder that the cause of the problem that these people don’t have water isn’t PETA. Friendly reminder that PETA doesn’t owe anyone anything. Friendly reminder that the gouvernment, who is RESPONSIBLE for the people, doesn’t do shit meanwhile. Friendly reminder that being vegan for a month is not gonna kill anyone, or break their pride, or whatever. Friendly reminder that PETA’s highest concern is the well-being of animals, not people. They are not a humantarian group.

I don’t like PETA, but they don’t have to pay anyone’s bills. It’s only fair that they push their agenda in exchange for handing money to people.

Meanwhile, instead of rallying a hate campaign against PETA you could collect money to actually really help these people.

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humansofnewyork:

"I told the truth on my job application about my past drug use, and they sent me a letter saying I didn’t meet their standards of integrity."

Tough. This is how society treats honest people.

Posted 1 week ago

tinyfishbowl:

I love how some SJWs try to flame people/artists/whatever for using elements of Japanese culture when Japan appropriates the hell out of other cultures.

I feel like at least 70% of Japanese culture is appropriated from other cultures lol. Mostly other asian ones, but a lot of aspects from all over the world too.

Examples off the top of my head:

  • Japan celebrates Christmas, and not the small Christan population but as a whole they do. Why?? Just cause.
  • Japan, that once had its own traditional style of marriage, now mostly has the whole “bride in white gown” ceremony and etc.
  • There’s like a whole subculture of Japanese kids that are inspired by hip-hop and have cornrolls and everything lol.

There’s more, lots more, but that’s all I can think on the spot.

I really don’t get who started the whole DON’T USE OTHER CULTURES AS INSPIRATION ARRRRR thing?? I can understand annoyance when it’s done in ignorant ways but really trying to make all cultures never have criss cross is like trying to halt the progress of it. Part of what makes culture is thousands of years of appropriation. There is no culture that exists without appropriation from whatever other cultures it came into contact with.

Sometimes people are like, “Don’t use Native American-looking prints on your clothes!! You don’t even know what it meeaaans!!” …Neither did a lot of the Native Americans that made them. Native Americans copied each others textile designs all the fucking time lol.

Just stop with the silliness and ignorance pls.

All of this. Culture can’t exist in a bubble, not when people from different cultures live among each other, anyways.

If you want to truely conserve culture, you need to take your culture and move to a place completely shut off from any other person from another culture.

And even then the culture will change from within. People need to understand that culture is not stagnant. It has changed, does change, and will continue to change. You can try to preserve your traditions and carry them on into the next generation, but that doesn’t save if from changing either. You can’t stop culture from progressing.

So it’s really pointless to wave around with CULTURAL APPROPRIATIONNNN and try to hold it over people’s head when they take inspiration from a culture or tradition they do not originally belong to/did not grow up with.

Posted 1 week ago

The Worst Seafood You Could Eat Is…. Shrimp.

marine-conservation:

Shrimp is the #1 seafood in the USA. It is tasty, usually quite inexpensive, and is easily cooked and eaten. Unfortunately, such a craze for shrimp has created an environmental nightmare.

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Americans currently consume over one billion pounds of shrimp every year,…